His Head Forgets; His Heart Remembers

by Joanna Smith on Jan 18, 2013

The granddaughter of one of my clients just sent me an email about a conversation she had just had with her 93 year old grandfather who is quite forgetful.  And he knows he is forgetful.  She had just had a very lucid, lovely conversation with him, and had written me about it.  I had written back that the only problem is he forgets the conversations as soon as he hangs up the phone, and won’t remember that she had called.  I was trying to provide reassurance to her, in case it was upsetting in the future when he didn’t remember she had called.  That is probably one of the hardest situations for family members who are involved in caring for an aging parent—or in this case, grandparent.

In this case, the granddaughter wrote back and said “I know he forgets as soon as the visit/phone call is over; but that’s just cognitive. His head forgets. His spirit keeps the exchange just as ours does.”

A way to go forward when care giving is stressful:  His head forgets:  his heart remembers……